The difference between banter, zingers, and humour

Banter is exclusive.  You have to be on the 'inside' and when you are not 'in on it' you are pushed out and onto the back foot.

A 'zinger' is designed to elevate the deliverer and demean, belittle the receiver.  Often disguised as banter, but you know when you've been on the end of a zinger - it hurts a little, but we tend to swallow it, smile and keep going.

Humour on the other hand is inclusive.  Everyone is in on the joke.

Choose humour, it promotes a great culture.